Doubts on Dating a ChatGPT User or AI in General?

Of all the headlines that caught my attention last week, a writer penned a piece in The Guardian titled:

‘It shows such a laziness’: why I refuse to date someone who uses ChatGPT

Her biggest pet peeve was an overreliance on AI for everything. She mentioned examples from her own life and friends, and I have to admit, they were a bit extreme.

I’m not sure that ChatGPT use would be a relationship dealbreaker for me. After all, I use it!

And I imagine most of you reading this either use ChatGPT or something similar for a whole host of things. What I will say, however, is when it comes to work where relationships matter …

• Sales
• Fundraising
• Education
• Hospitality
• Counseling

… avoiding detectable AI-generated communication is a MUST.

By the way, I asked ChatGPT what some jobs are that depend heavily on relationships. It spit out the above, and also included healthcare, although I do think the medical field in general is going through some interesting advances thanks to AI.

Careful with the Workslop

According to a recent study (Niederhoffer, Kate et al. September 22, 2025. “AI AI-Generated “Workslop” Is Destroying Productivity. Harvard Business Review), an uncomfortably high (40%) of respondents indicated they have received what is coined as “AI workslop” over the past month. The researchers define workslop as:

“AI-generated work content that masquerades as good work, but lacks the substance to meaningfully advance a given task.”

This is troubling, especially the “lacks the substance” part.

I work in fundraising and advising non-profits on everything from governance and program management to incorporating AI tools into their work. AI can streamline operations, and it does.

But AI cannot, and should not, steward a donor relationship.

If a donor or potential donor is receiving your “AI workslop,” we’ve got problems.

In the first half of 2025, OpenAI reported $4.3 billion in revenue but a net loss of $13.5 billion.

Talks of an AI bubble are now ever-present.

We should all hope this doesn’t transpire. U.S. GDP growth over the first half of the year has been about 85 - 90% driven by investments in information processing technology and data centers.

Buckle up, this next visual is a doozy.

Nvidia and OpenAI are the main two characters financing and steering the AI money machine. The good news, at least from a potential crash perspective, is that most of this AI spending is through earnings and cash as opposed to debt.

But all of this spending begs the question:

Are the future productivity gains being oversold?

And one step further …

Is workslop damaging my professional relationships?

THERE IS NO SHORT-CUT TO RELATIONSHIP BUILDING.

You can incorporate, and should, predictive AI to analyze follower, customer/donor data, and then even generative AI to create communication templates.

But the GOAL is to get through the above more efficiently and productively so you can free up time to:

1. Personalize the HECK out of those templates
2. Build your existing relationships

AND most important …

Convince your significant other that your great idea for a Sunday afternoon was all yours and absolutely nothing to do with a sly GPT search. Best of luck with that!